When I was a little girl, I would often hear, “Shame on you. Who do you think you are? You should be ashamed.”
For many years of my life those words became my truth. I allowed the voice of shame to bully me, to constantly dictate my fate. Even when times got good, shame was always there to remind me of who I was. A girl from the projects, fatherless, a mutt, abused, a misfit, unwanted, never good enough.
I remember walking into restaurants and feeling uncomfortable, because I didn’t know how to order what I wanted. I would go to the mall and feel worthless, because I couldn’t afford to buy any of the clothes. I would feel so self-conscious and unqualified when I was the only woman or person of color in the room.
The voice of shame speaks to your identity. It tells you that you’re not good enough just because of your circumstances. Shame never wants you to figure out who you really are, because when you find out who you really are, you discover that you are a force to be reckoned with.
God says that you are His masterpiece, created in His image. He is not ashamed to call you His own. You are righteous and redeemed. In Christ you can do anything!
I found that my identity was not in my past, or even my current situation, but in who God says I am. Now I can walk into any room with confidence. If I’m different, it’s because God wants me to stand out. If I’m the only one, it’s because God wants me to lead the way.
When the voice of shame says to me, “Who do you think you are?” I talk back and declare that I am a child of God.
How has the voice of shame spoken to you? Do you talk back? Do you declare your true identity?
No more shame on you. SHAME OFF YOU!