When I was a little girl, I would often hear, “Shame on you. Who do you think you are? You should be ashamed.”

For many years of my life those words became my truth. I allowed the voice of shame to bully me, to constantly dictate my fate. Even when times got good, shame was always there to remind me of who I was. A girl from the projects, fatherless, a mutt, abused, a misfit, unwanted, never good enough.

I remember walking into restaurants and feeling uncomfortable, because I didn’t know how to order what I wanted. I would go to the mall and feel worthless, because I couldn’t afford to buy any of the clothes. I would feel so  self-conscious and unqualified when I was the only woman or person of color in the room.

The voice of shame speaks to your identity. It tells you that you’re not good enough just because of your circumstances. Shame never wants you to figure out who you really are, because when you find out who you really are, you discover that you are a force to be reckoned with.

God says that you are His masterpiece, created in His image. He is not ashamed to call you His own. You are righteous and redeemed. In Christ you can do anything!

I found that my identity was not in my past, or even my current situation, but in who God says I am. Now I can walk into any room with confidence. If I’m different, it’s because God wants me to stand out. If I’m the only one, it’s because God wants me to lead the way.

When the voice of shame says to me, “Who do you think you are?”  I talk back and declare that I am a child of God.

How has the voice of shame spoken to you? Do you talk back? Do you declare your true identity?

No more shame on you. SHAME OFF YOU!

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  • Ronnica Chapman

    Wow. So powerful. I’ve been there before….walking into rooms feeling uncomfortable and unwanted. It took me a while but I finally learned how to see myself the way God sees me. When shame comes knocking on my door, I’m reminded to speak the truth—God loves you and He needs you for something special! #nomoreshame

  • Chanell Gay

    The voice of shame has spoken to me as well. After I lost my husband almost six years ago, that I couldn’t raise my two black boys on my own. It had me doubting that I was doing a good job raising them. However it took me a while to stop allowing shame of being a single mom to whisper in my ear and that I was failing them. Even when others around me would say how I was doing a wonderful job with them. I had to use what God have giving me to be strong single mom. I had to start believing that God would see me through the valley and that he had a purpose for my life. I had to look in the bible to see what my Daddy have say about me. I thank him for allowing me to have my boys. Now when those doubts try to creep up in my mind I quickly use what I have to cast shame out.

  • Chakona

    Bless God! Our past doesn’t define who we are. For our identity in Christ declares who we are. Thank You for your testimony! XoXo

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